Silver0216
St Johnsville NY USA
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Tomorrow will be 2 months since I had to let my Heart cat Salem go but the pain makes it feel like it was only yesterday. I`ve never had this hard of a time letting one of my fur babies go and was always able to remember the good memories but I can`t seem to do that with Salem, every time I look at her picture or think of her I start crying though now I make sure I`m alone so DH doesn`t think I`m crazy! She was my constant companion and was here when the kids moved away. I had her 8 years even though the vets said she would be lucky to live past 1 yr and I did everything I could for her to give her a good life and keep her comfortable but I still sometimes I feel like I didn`t do enough for her. We did our first long trip with the kittens but it wasn`t the same I kept waiting to see Salem climb up on her blanket on the dash. Sometimes I feel that I wouldn`t care if we sold the motor home and didn`t travel anymore
2005 Gulfstream Friendship G7
Sterling Blue Merle Aussie
Kit Kat orange & white cat
Simon Grey/Wht tiger cat
Cassie(Himmy Mix)
Jewel(Torti
He`s Tough- My spoiled Thoroughbred pleasure horse
Salem 5/4/01-8/22/09
Duchess torti cat 10/94-4/21/09)
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sher9570
NY/Fl
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I don't think your feelings are uncommon, I lost Sofie two years ago and it still hurts and yes, there are times I felt I didn't do enough for her however I don't really know what more I could have done.
We did get a new puppy, Lucy...I love her and her spirit and personality and her absolute goofy persona, but there were times in the first year when we went to the beach or the places Sofie loved to go, Lucy would be having a grand time and my thoughts were "Sofie should be here to enjoy this....."
After awhile I realized it was so unfair to Lucy, it wasn't her fault and Sofie had no say either.
So in time, you will accept and appreciate the kitties you have, you will enjoy the MH again, and you will remember Salem with very fond memories.
It just takes time.
Sher
Doug & Sher
2006 HR Presidential 34'
2001 Ford Excursion 7.3
Zachery the sassy Pomeranian
Lucy the Lab with "a very gentle soul"
Sofie Forever in our hearts
9/5-1996 to 9/22-2007 We miss you so.
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DOTLDaddy
Camp Canine, Union, MO. U.S.A.
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Everyone has to work their way through loss and sad times in their own way. The old phrase, "time heals all", while trite, is also quite true. A year from now things will not seem nearly as bleak.
Walter & Garland - Camp Canine caretakers
Gen. Gretchen - 5 y.o. GSD - Special Forces/Seal/DOTL Cloudbusters
Gen. Missy - GSD/Aussie - Special Forces/DOTL Rainbow Division
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2008 Puma 25RBSS TT
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USA Traveler
Lewisville
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Losing a loved member of your family is always hard. When I had to let my 12 yr old Maltese (Corky) go, I said I never wanted another pet. We still had a 14 yr old female maltese (Cammie). My husband kept wanting to get a puppy, finally I gave in and on June 30, 2008, we picked up 9 week old Cody. On July 20th my husband passed away, then on July 24th I had to have my little girl, Cammie go. That only left me and Cody. I can't imagine life without him, he is always there for me and has a personality that won't quit.
Grieve in your own way and your own time, we all have different timeframes and ways of dealing with a loss. Remember that you are not alone and God knows your pain and is carrying you during this difficult time.
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Hit The Road Jack
Treasure Coast of Florida
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Been 5 1/2 years since we lost our 'Pippi', and still cry when I look at her picture. I say "good morning Pippi" to a photo of her each and every morning. We rescued our youngest boys 'Tango & Cash', who we love dearly, shortly after Pippi's death, but did not fill the emptyness
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Uppercrust
Wisconsin
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We lost Diesel in March & I still shed tears & miss him.
2005 F350 CC, PSD, FX4, Toreador Red/Silver
2006 Cougar 309EFS with campers mom, dad
13 yr. old son
15 yr. old daughter
Diesel R.I.P.
Lady lab mix 15
Daisy beagle/collie
Misty shepard/husky
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JimChow
Fraser, MI
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Kathy and I know exactly how you feel. We had to let go of Bailey a little over 2 months ago. We had her since she was a puppy and enjoyed her company for 14 1/2 years. It is still hard to come home and no Bailey waiting. I swear I can hear her walking around the house sometimes. We even talked about whether we did the right thing in putting her to sleep but we trusted the vet and we certainly did not want her to suffer any longer. Just this morning as I drove down the street to work I thought about how much she liked to walk the neighborhood and how much I miss that. We tell the little stories that made us laugh about Bailey and we laugh again. We sure miss her but we have her memories so Bailey is always with us.
Jim & Kathy
Bailey in spirit
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2008 FR Surveyor 233T
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Hiker3
Florida
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Oh gosh. My heart goes out to each and everyone here who lost a loved one.
Livin Lite Quicksilver 8.0 (Folding Tent Camper) only 900 lbs!
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Spike88
New Glasgow,Nova Scotia Canada
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I also understand how you feel. Tigger passed 2 yrs ago and Junior 1 1/2 ago. I still feel sad when I think of them and I still cry. The loss we deal with when we lose a pet is huge and we all deal with it in different ways and it is normal to feel we didnt do enough but inside we know we did all we could do. That is all we can do for our babies. Take your time and deal with your loss in your own time. It hurts but it will get better in time. I got 3 more cats and I think I did just so I wont feel the pain so much when it is Marbles time to go as she is 13 yrs old. I love them dearly but I still have a huge place in my heart for my "boys". Take care and keep sharing with us so we can help.
Margie UPS~44
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Klueck
Georgia
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I know how hard it is to lose a special cat. I have several cats but always seem have one that is particularly special. It doesn't seem like I can go out and get a new kitty after I lose the "special" one, but it always seems to happen that a new "special" kitty comes to me. That may happen to you too. In the meantime, just know that your feelings are natural and your husband will understand.
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